1 year, 24 hours, 1440 minutes, 86400 seconds – this is how we measure the time of our lives. Depends on how you look at it.
Most people say that life flies too quickly. Before you knew it, a new president was elected. A new cellphone was released to the market. Prices of gasoline tripled. You can’t see your age in the calendar anymore.
For all we know, we hardly notice how time flies for the reason that we tend to reside in the past to relive the special moments of our lives. And I mean moment with a capital “M.” These moments can be a memory, life altering events or conversations. Your first day at school. Your first kiss that remained in your lips for some time. Your first awkward encounter with the opposite sex. The time you had a fist fight. The time when you had an accident. The time you almost died. The list goes on and on.
And, these moments conjures feelings of the past. It makes you happy. It makes you sad. It sends you to a rollercoaster of emotions. But one thing’s for certain-you relieve these moments on and on as if it was forever.
Almost always it is coupled with deep longing thoughts of “shoulda-woulda-coulda” - what could have happened if I lived my life differently? Perhaps, I should have done it this way… Or that? What if I didn’t broke up with her? What if I chose a different career? What if?
And, yes, I know. It nags you to the core. But, these thoughts make you think and let you learn things only experience can provide. Come to think of it - most of our decisions, values and even prejudices came from our past experiences.
As we go on living our lives, we hardly notice how time flies. How short our lives are becoming. How more and more things are left undone. Our sense of time is distorted into a playback and rewind of events, people and situations. Before we knew it, we are living in the past.
Our fear of letting go, holds us back from new experiences. Silly as it may seem, we hold these moments tightly because they are special and meaningful. But, they hinder us from learning new things or starting a new chapter of our lives.
Fellow toastmasters and guests, don’t get me wrong. These special moments have its purpose and served you well. It would be wasteful to continue to relive our past at the expense of the present.
Think of it. Here’s an example: We fill up our rooms with things that remind us of our past for the fear that we will lose a part of ourselves when take them a way. Love letters, rusted trophies, useless books, and the first tooth that came off your mouth. Who is guilty? I am.
If you look at it on the hindsight, we only have to look at the mirror and see. We are… our past. We don’t need things to remind us of who we were, who we are and who we are to become.
So, let us cast them aside to provide space in our heart or in our rooms for new things and experiences. Let us ask ourselves: When was the last time we I did something for the first time? Tried something I thought I’d never do? Let’s act on these questions.
There is still so much left undone and new experiences to create. We still have plenty of 1 year, 24 hours, 1440 minutes or 86400 seconds left to spare and I suggest we use it as much as we can.
Monday, March 30, 2009
Friday, March 27, 2009
Toastmasters Speech No. 3: " When I was Cheated"
By Christopher Siena, TM
I was cheated. I was cheated when I was in school not by my classmates but by the very exams that were suppose to measure my ratings and academic performance.
Grade 1: Math subject
We were given an exam on multiplication. Part 1 was a timed exam due within 5 minutes. We were supposed to answer a set of items such as 8 times four and 7 times 51 using mental math. No calculators were allowed.
With a snap of a finger, the teacher shouted, “Finished or not finished, pass your papers.” I was hesitant to do so. I was not finished with ten items to fill up. But, hell, I have to move on with part 2.
The second part was easy. No time pressure. You just have to solve the problems given. For example: Your father gave you a daily allowance of 100 pesos. How much will you be able to save in a week after spending 65 pesos a day?
The teacher checked the papers and after a day we were informed of our grades. I was given a perfect score for part 2 but the results of part 1 was devastating. Bottom line, I failed the test because part 1 has more items and thus have more bearing.
I was cheated that day. I felt that part 1 should have less bearing on exam. Why? Because part 1 is not a math exam. It doesn’t measure how good you are in applying mathematical principles. It just tests how good you are in memorizing the multiplication table.
I am not just cheated in math. I was consistently cheated in my other subjects due to the traditional belief that memory retention is the ultimate measure of academic success as thus success in later endeavors.
High School: History Subject
I was given an exam. The first part was enumeration. I have to write down names of Filipino Heroes. There was a question: Who was the Filipino hero who killed Magellan? I was tempted to answer Lapu Lapu because that was written in the history book that we were asked to memorize. I didn’t answer Lapu Lapu. Why? Because I believe he was not a Filipino in the first place. There was no national identity back then only tribal identity.
This is just my opinion and I may be wrong. What bothers me is not just that we are expected to memorize what is written in our textbooks but that we are also expected to believe on what’s written as if it is the ultimate truth. We are given a failing grade for not "learning" what is "taught."
Fellow toastmasters and guest, I’m sure you can relate on what I am saying: that one time or another, we are expected to memorize and believe what our teachers and textbooks say. We are taught to believe that what’s written in our textbooks are ultimate truths and that memorizing these texts will make us succeed later in life.
This is misleading because wrong measures lead to wrong results. We cheat ourselves when we think that memorizing the multiplication table will make us a better mathematician. We also cheat ourselves when we think that what is written in our textbooks is true and unbiased. We cheat ourselves more when believe and practice these things so earnestly.
So here’s my recommendation regarding this matter: STOP CHEATING YOURSELF. Instead of memorizing things, asking ourselves easy questions such as what, when and where, let us ask ourselves how and why. These are more important questions of learning wherein we are tasked to understand, be critical and have our own independent thoughts.
I was cheated. I was cheated when I was in school not by my classmates but by the very exams that were suppose to measure my ratings and academic performance.
Grade 1: Math subject
We were given an exam on multiplication. Part 1 was a timed exam due within 5 minutes. We were supposed to answer a set of items such as 8 times four and 7 times 51 using mental math. No calculators were allowed.
With a snap of a finger, the teacher shouted, “Finished or not finished, pass your papers.” I was hesitant to do so. I was not finished with ten items to fill up. But, hell, I have to move on with part 2.
The second part was easy. No time pressure. You just have to solve the problems given. For example: Your father gave you a daily allowance of 100 pesos. How much will you be able to save in a week after spending 65 pesos a day?
The teacher checked the papers and after a day we were informed of our grades. I was given a perfect score for part 2 but the results of part 1 was devastating. Bottom line, I failed the test because part 1 has more items and thus have more bearing.
I was cheated that day. I felt that part 1 should have less bearing on exam. Why? Because part 1 is not a math exam. It doesn’t measure how good you are in applying mathematical principles. It just tests how good you are in memorizing the multiplication table.
I am not just cheated in math. I was consistently cheated in my other subjects due to the traditional belief that memory retention is the ultimate measure of academic success as thus success in later endeavors.
High School: History Subject
I was given an exam. The first part was enumeration. I have to write down names of Filipino Heroes. There was a question: Who was the Filipino hero who killed Magellan? I was tempted to answer Lapu Lapu because that was written in the history book that we were asked to memorize. I didn’t answer Lapu Lapu. Why? Because I believe he was not a Filipino in the first place. There was no national identity back then only tribal identity.
This is just my opinion and I may be wrong. What bothers me is not just that we are expected to memorize what is written in our textbooks but that we are also expected to believe on what’s written as if it is the ultimate truth. We are given a failing grade for not "learning" what is "taught."
Fellow toastmasters and guest, I’m sure you can relate on what I am saying: that one time or another, we are expected to memorize and believe what our teachers and textbooks say. We are taught to believe that what’s written in our textbooks are ultimate truths and that memorizing these texts will make us succeed later in life.
This is misleading because wrong measures lead to wrong results. We cheat ourselves when we think that memorizing the multiplication table will make us a better mathematician. We also cheat ourselves when we think that what is written in our textbooks is true and unbiased. We cheat ourselves more when believe and practice these things so earnestly.
So here’s my recommendation regarding this matter: STOP CHEATING YOURSELF. Instead of memorizing things, asking ourselves easy questions such as what, when and where, let us ask ourselves how and why. These are more important questions of learning wherein we are tasked to understand, be critical and have our own independent thoughts.
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
Toastmasters Speech No. 2: "Thoughts on Being Alone"
By Christopher Siena, TM
Why?!
That was the reaction of my friends when they knew that I went alone to the beach to celebrate my 21st birthday. Their expressions in their faces were as if I have confessed a murder.
I was not at all surprised by their reaction. Society looks at people who spend alone in the beach with awkward glances. I could even recall a sly remark from my cousin who asked my why I don’t have company. I told him that I didn’t plan to spend it with them and that I prefer to be alone this day of the year.
But, fellow toastmasters and guests don’t get me wrong. I have no intention of spending my whole life alone like a hermit. Nor am I too proud to admit that I need human company… because I do. What kept me wondering is why people surround themselves with other people as if they were oxygen. Is it because most people are afraid to be perceived as lonely and thus miserable even though it is not always the case? But if it is, would it make any difference?
Misery is misery whether we are alone or with someone by our side. We feel miserable and alone when a loved one dies even if the wake is jam-packed with concerned individuals. So why not look at solitude as a gift rather than a curse? Why don’t we enjoy the moments we spend alone?
Being alone makes us look inside ourselves. It makes us assess our lives and makes us ask questions to ourselves. Let me illustrate my point. We listen to the radio. We listen to our Ipods. But when was the last time we listened to ourselves? When was the last time we heard our inner voice speaking to us – telling us what we really want, what we really desire? Do we desire the products that we hear in the radio? Do really understand the meaning of the love songs we hear in our Ipods? In these questions and private conversations, we get to know ourselves more.
Lastly, being alone means we control our time. Imagine a vacation where you don’t have to follow a schedule. You don’t have to wait for others to finish so that you can move on. You eat when you want. You swim when you want. You sleep when you want. No one will say that you’re a “kill-joy.” Simply said you don’t have to strike a compromise with someone else except yourself.
So try it! Have a vacation alone - away from the hustle and bustle of social life. Dodge those awkward glances. Relax and have a good time with yourself. Listen to the silence of yourself talking.
Why?!
That was the reaction of my friends when they knew that I went alone to the beach to celebrate my 21st birthday. Their expressions in their faces were as if I have confessed a murder.
I was not at all surprised by their reaction. Society looks at people who spend alone in the beach with awkward glances. I could even recall a sly remark from my cousin who asked my why I don’t have company. I told him that I didn’t plan to spend it with them and that I prefer to be alone this day of the year.
But, fellow toastmasters and guests don’t get me wrong. I have no intention of spending my whole life alone like a hermit. Nor am I too proud to admit that I need human company… because I do. What kept me wondering is why people surround themselves with other people as if they were oxygen. Is it because most people are afraid to be perceived as lonely and thus miserable even though it is not always the case? But if it is, would it make any difference?
Misery is misery whether we are alone or with someone by our side. We feel miserable and alone when a loved one dies even if the wake is jam-packed with concerned individuals. So why not look at solitude as a gift rather than a curse? Why don’t we enjoy the moments we spend alone?
Being alone makes us look inside ourselves. It makes us assess our lives and makes us ask questions to ourselves. Let me illustrate my point. We listen to the radio. We listen to our Ipods. But when was the last time we listened to ourselves? When was the last time we heard our inner voice speaking to us – telling us what we really want, what we really desire? Do we desire the products that we hear in the radio? Do really understand the meaning of the love songs we hear in our Ipods? In these questions and private conversations, we get to know ourselves more.
Lastly, being alone means we control our time. Imagine a vacation where you don’t have to follow a schedule. You don’t have to wait for others to finish so that you can move on. You eat when you want. You swim when you want. You sleep when you want. No one will say that you’re a “kill-joy.” Simply said you don’t have to strike a compromise with someone else except yourself.
So try it! Have a vacation alone - away from the hustle and bustle of social life. Dodge those awkward glances. Relax and have a good time with yourself. Listen to the silence of yourself talking.
Monday, March 23, 2009
Toastmasters Speech No.1: "Cigarette Smoking is Dangerous To Your Health"
By Christopher Siena, TM
I am a smoker. I started smoking when I was 13. Back then cigarettes tasted bitter but the idea of breathing tobacco in and out of your lungs is electrifying. Those were the days of innocence where life is perfect and love is forever. Then it hit me. I was rushed to the hospital due to my smoking habit. I sweared on my hospital bed that I wouldn’t smoke again.
But promises are made to be broken. When I entered college, almost everyone smoked, so I did. At that time, tobacco tasted like paper – empty and unappealing. So were my first subjects – math, social studies and religion. It was so easy, I never studied nor reviewed. Instead, I indulged myself to travel parties and occasional drunkenness. Life was perfect and the taste was addicting. Soon, my vices led me to different brands of expensive cigarettes – DJ Mix, West, West Ice and my favorite, Gudang Garam.
As I squandered my allowance, I met my first love. She had intoxicating looks, engaging features and addicting properties. We often spend time traveling, drinking and whispering sweet nothings. We were soul-mates and it was as if our love would live forever. Cigarettes tasted like sugar and I was totally hooked. My cravings became worse and worse. I started failing subjects. I knew I had to withdraw. And so I did. I broke up with her. I stopped smoking.
But my withdrawal was short-lived. I missed her so much that I started to smoke again. I couldn’t help it. By then, I started smoking Gudang Garam in excess amounts. The taste was sweet but strong. The smell was distinct and ambiguous – a few friends like it, most of them don’t.
It was too addicting and I began to dig deeper into addiction. I went on a depressive state and at my lowest, I met my 2nd love. She was irresistible. Like me she had an insatiable appetite for romance and intimacy. I knew our relationship wouldn’t go for long. Some people don’t want us to be together plus she had a boyfriend. Yes, I knew it wasn’t right but it felt so good. I couldn’t resist. True enough, we broke up. My life went tumbling down and I ended up with nothing… nothing but a broken heart and a pair of damaged lungs.
Up to now, I still smoke. And when I do, I reminisce. I look at everything that has come and gone like the smoke that comes in and out of my lungs. I learned that all good things have to end but what’s important is that we breathe best out of it. We may love it as much as we hate it but nevertheless, we desire it as if it was everything. That’s life. At least now I know that what the label meant when it said: Cigarettes smoking is dangerous to your health.
I am a smoker. I started smoking when I was 13. Back then cigarettes tasted bitter but the idea of breathing tobacco in and out of your lungs is electrifying. Those were the days of innocence where life is perfect and love is forever. Then it hit me. I was rushed to the hospital due to my smoking habit. I sweared on my hospital bed that I wouldn’t smoke again.
But promises are made to be broken. When I entered college, almost everyone smoked, so I did. At that time, tobacco tasted like paper – empty and unappealing. So were my first subjects – math, social studies and religion. It was so easy, I never studied nor reviewed. Instead, I indulged myself to travel parties and occasional drunkenness. Life was perfect and the taste was addicting. Soon, my vices led me to different brands of expensive cigarettes – DJ Mix, West, West Ice and my favorite, Gudang Garam.
As I squandered my allowance, I met my first love. She had intoxicating looks, engaging features and addicting properties. We often spend time traveling, drinking and whispering sweet nothings. We were soul-mates and it was as if our love would live forever. Cigarettes tasted like sugar and I was totally hooked. My cravings became worse and worse. I started failing subjects. I knew I had to withdraw. And so I did. I broke up with her. I stopped smoking.
But my withdrawal was short-lived. I missed her so much that I started to smoke again. I couldn’t help it. By then, I started smoking Gudang Garam in excess amounts. The taste was sweet but strong. The smell was distinct and ambiguous – a few friends like it, most of them don’t.
It was too addicting and I began to dig deeper into addiction. I went on a depressive state and at my lowest, I met my 2nd love. She was irresistible. Like me she had an insatiable appetite for romance and intimacy. I knew our relationship wouldn’t go for long. Some people don’t want us to be together plus she had a boyfriend. Yes, I knew it wasn’t right but it felt so good. I couldn’t resist. True enough, we broke up. My life went tumbling down and I ended up with nothing… nothing but a broken heart and a pair of damaged lungs.
Up to now, I still smoke. And when I do, I reminisce. I look at everything that has come and gone like the smoke that comes in and out of my lungs. I learned that all good things have to end but what’s important is that we breathe best out of it. We may love it as much as we hate it but nevertheless, we desire it as if it was everything. That’s life. At least now I know that what the label meant when it said: Cigarettes smoking is dangerous to your health.
Sunday, March 22, 2009
Toastmasters Speech No. 3 " Equating My Life with a Pencil"
By Alvin Abrantes
One of my childhood past time was collecting pencils. Red, black, stripes, psychedelics, checkered, cartoon prints, costly and cheap ones. Name it! I surely have it. I remember the time I became a nuisance to my mom every time I begged her to buy. She would always ask me “What’s with the pencil that fascinates you? You’ve got a lot in your box.” At that point I do not have any good or at least valid reason to give her. All I could think was, I like to take hold of all the pencils around me. Keep it on my box and count it, countless times. Years passed and I had outgrown the passion I have with the pencil. Forgetting all the tears I shed just for my mom to buy a single pencil to add to my collection.
Few days before this, while having a general cleaning at our storage area, I found my long lost interest, my most priced possession when I was a kid, my pencils! Thoughts came like a flashing beam on my mind! Interest was awakened in me. Little did I know that we could learn so many things from it. I’ve come to realized that thirty years since then; I’ve got a clearer perspective with a pencil. Now, I can give my mom a better if not the best answer from her question thirty years ago.
Let me share with you the five important lessons from my childhood past time… Equating my life with a pencil.
First, like the pencil everything I do will always leave a mark…Mark that changes lives of people around me. As a trainer the knowledge and skills I instill with my participants will make or break them. I think I will be remembered with all the positive things I impart everyday. So from time to time I’ve gotta’ have my time check… am I livin’ a worthy life or just letting it passed by? How about you? Have you ever wondered, what mark are you going to leave when you depart this life?
Second, similar to a pencil, I can always correct the mistakes I make. I can always use the other side of the pencil and erase the unwanted mark I made. I am not afraid to apologize and reorganize things. I am not perfect as anybody in this room right now. I can say “I’m sorry” if I’ve done something wrong. Believe it or not, it didn’t bother me at all. If I’m wrong… I’m wrong… no justification needed… no need to hide behind reasons. What I do is to give my sincerest apology and try to mend things. Believe me, it will lessen the pain and will make situation easier. If only people around us will learn this…
Third, what is important is what is inside of me … The pencil is worthless without its lead. Just like the pencil no matter what trademark I wear or how expensive my jewelries are, it is not incomparable with what is inside of me… my personality…my character. It is the mark that I will leave to you.
Fourth, just like the pencil, I will undergo painful sharpening which will make me a better person. Living life is not always a bliss. Sometimes, we’re so engrossed with the things that are happening to us - forgetting that we are heading the wrong direction. In these times we need other people to sharpen us up. It will surely hurt, but pencils can never give its magnificence without experiencing the sharp blades. Critics are not always bad, actually we need them to see different angle on which we fail to see. I didn’t say that you entrust your life to them. But at least take a few steps back to see things for yourself. However, we should be attentive between the critics and gossipers. They are not in any way similar with each other. No one said that honing is easy but one should experience it to shape a better you.
Lastly, and probably the most important is to be the best pencil I can be. I must allow myself to be held and guided by the hand that holds me…Our GOD The Father.
We can never go wrong with Him. I’ve notice that people nowadays are so absorbed with material things. Why are we allowing ourselves to be seized by the earthly things? Isn’t it nice if our God is the one in control? Just try to give it a thought. Maybe, it is the reason why we are not happy in spite of the huge success we are receiving.
We are like pencils… we are responsible for whatever mark we made with our lives. How about you what mark are you leaving?
One of my childhood past time was collecting pencils. Red, black, stripes, psychedelics, checkered, cartoon prints, costly and cheap ones. Name it! I surely have it. I remember the time I became a nuisance to my mom every time I begged her to buy. She would always ask me “What’s with the pencil that fascinates you? You’ve got a lot in your box.” At that point I do not have any good or at least valid reason to give her. All I could think was, I like to take hold of all the pencils around me. Keep it on my box and count it, countless times. Years passed and I had outgrown the passion I have with the pencil. Forgetting all the tears I shed just for my mom to buy a single pencil to add to my collection.
Few days before this, while having a general cleaning at our storage area, I found my long lost interest, my most priced possession when I was a kid, my pencils! Thoughts came like a flashing beam on my mind! Interest was awakened in me. Little did I know that we could learn so many things from it. I’ve come to realized that thirty years since then; I’ve got a clearer perspective with a pencil. Now, I can give my mom a better if not the best answer from her question thirty years ago.
Let me share with you the five important lessons from my childhood past time… Equating my life with a pencil.
First, like the pencil everything I do will always leave a mark…Mark that changes lives of people around me. As a trainer the knowledge and skills I instill with my participants will make or break them. I think I will be remembered with all the positive things I impart everyday. So from time to time I’ve gotta’ have my time check… am I livin’ a worthy life or just letting it passed by? How about you? Have you ever wondered, what mark are you going to leave when you depart this life?
Second, similar to a pencil, I can always correct the mistakes I make. I can always use the other side of the pencil and erase the unwanted mark I made. I am not afraid to apologize and reorganize things. I am not perfect as anybody in this room right now. I can say “I’m sorry” if I’ve done something wrong. Believe it or not, it didn’t bother me at all. If I’m wrong… I’m wrong… no justification needed… no need to hide behind reasons. What I do is to give my sincerest apology and try to mend things. Believe me, it will lessen the pain and will make situation easier. If only people around us will learn this…
Third, what is important is what is inside of me … The pencil is worthless without its lead. Just like the pencil no matter what trademark I wear or how expensive my jewelries are, it is not incomparable with what is inside of me… my personality…my character. It is the mark that I will leave to you.
Fourth, just like the pencil, I will undergo painful sharpening which will make me a better person. Living life is not always a bliss. Sometimes, we’re so engrossed with the things that are happening to us - forgetting that we are heading the wrong direction. In these times we need other people to sharpen us up. It will surely hurt, but pencils can never give its magnificence without experiencing the sharp blades. Critics are not always bad, actually we need them to see different angle on which we fail to see. I didn’t say that you entrust your life to them. But at least take a few steps back to see things for yourself. However, we should be attentive between the critics and gossipers. They are not in any way similar with each other. No one said that honing is easy but one should experience it to shape a better you.
Lastly, and probably the most important is to be the best pencil I can be. I must allow myself to be held and guided by the hand that holds me…Our GOD The Father.
We can never go wrong with Him. I’ve notice that people nowadays are so absorbed with material things. Why are we allowing ourselves to be seized by the earthly things? Isn’t it nice if our God is the one in control? Just try to give it a thought. Maybe, it is the reason why we are not happy in spite of the huge success we are receiving.
We are like pencils… we are responsible for whatever mark we made with our lives. How about you what mark are you leaving?
Saturday, March 21, 2009
3 Meetings in One Month on April
Because we are a special club, we will have a special meeting on April 2. To accommodate all requests for speaking schedules, we have scheduled this meeting to be a marathon of 6 prepared speakers. Each speaker will, of course, be evaluated. To manage the time, we will limit our agenda for the night. There will be no Table Topic segment, and no language evaluation. Speakers will be timed, and their language crutches counted, but there will be no time and ah-count reports during the meeting.
The meeting dates for April are:
April 2, 16, 30
Same time: 7 PM. Same place: Function Room A, Penthouse, Makati Stock Exchange along Ayala Ave.
Please tell other members and your expected guests about this change of schedule.
Another special meeting is scheduled for June.
The meeting dates for April are:
April 2, 16, 30
Same time: 7 PM. Same place: Function Room A, Penthouse, Makati Stock Exchange along Ayala Ave.
Please tell other members and your expected guests about this change of schedule.
Another special meeting is scheduled for June.
Eager Speakers at BnT
by Gege Sugue
"The culture has changed." BnT Vice President Ed Ebreo says it best when he talks about a shift in BnT. Previously, members had to be forced to deliver speeches. And the VP Education's worst fear was having zero prepared speakers in a meeting.
We must be doing something right, because that has changed. Gone are those days when officers had to bribe, coerce, emotionally blackmail members to speak. Now, it's a fight for the mic. Members and even guests are scampering to grab a speaking slot. Some, sadly, have to be turned away to give way to other speakers. New members are signing up with an eye on a date for an icebreaker speech. We are booked up to June, Ed Ebreo says with a mix of exasperation and glee.
Add to this the fact that BnT's membership roster is at a record high with 32 members. Sorry if we sound like we're bragging.
It's a happy problem, but a problem nonetheless that has to be addressed.
Here are some creative solutions that we came up with:
- Quarterly special meetings (Read the next post.)
- Club hopping (Ask Alvin and Gege about this.)
- Short term and long term scheduling (Check out Ed's multi-color rainbow MS Excel file of the Meeting Roles Schedule)
- Scheduled speakers to advise VP Ed of cancellations at least 1 week before the meeting
- Back up members to be ready to take over canceled slots.
- Speech Carnival (What is this? Let's wait for Ed's announcement.)
Inasmuch as increased membership is helping us with our goals and adding some badly needed funds into our coffers, we also recognize that this brings on more challenges. Our members pay for this club to help them in their personal and professional goals. As officers, we have the responsibility to help them with these goals while ensuring that the quality of meetings don't suffer. Implementing the solutions listed above will help us face the challenges.
We need everyone's cooperation to make it happen.
As always, our cry is Make the Most of Butter N' Toast!
"The culture has changed." BnT Vice President Ed Ebreo says it best when he talks about a shift in BnT. Previously, members had to be forced to deliver speeches. And the VP Education's worst fear was having zero prepared speakers in a meeting.
We must be doing something right, because that has changed. Gone are those days when officers had to bribe, coerce, emotionally blackmail members to speak. Now, it's a fight for the mic. Members and even guests are scampering to grab a speaking slot. Some, sadly, have to be turned away to give way to other speakers. New members are signing up with an eye on a date for an icebreaker speech. We are booked up to June, Ed Ebreo says with a mix of exasperation and glee.Add to this the fact that BnT's membership roster is at a record high with 32 members. Sorry if we sound like we're bragging.
It's a happy problem, but a problem nonetheless that has to be addressed.
Here are some creative solutions that we came up with:
- Quarterly special meetings (Read the next post.)
- Club hopping (Ask Alvin and Gege about this.)
- Short term and long term scheduling (Check out Ed's multi-color rainbow MS Excel file of the Meeting Roles Schedule)
- Scheduled speakers to advise VP Ed of cancellations at least 1 week before the meeting
- Back up members to be ready to take over canceled slots.
- Speech Carnival (What is this? Let's wait for Ed's announcement.)
Inasmuch as increased membership is helping us with our goals and adding some badly needed funds into our coffers, we also recognize that this brings on more challenges. Our members pay for this club to help them in their personal and professional goals. As officers, we have the responsibility to help them with these goals while ensuring that the quality of meetings don't suffer. Implementing the solutions listed above will help us face the challenges.
We need everyone's cooperation to make it happen.
As always, our cry is Make the Most of Butter N' Toast!
AIM Takes a Bite of Butter N Toast Toastmasters Club
The Meralco Room was again the venue for a Toastmasters demo meeting. Thanks to the invitation of new toasties, Sheila Abalajen and Joanna Capareda, both AIM students.BnT Treasurer Sheila dela Cruz again rose above the call of duty by taking the last-minute challenge to be TM of the PM. Of course, she handled the hosting like a pro, as if she had been preparing for this for weeks.
TM Ton Villanueva made his debut as Table Topic Master. His questions were challenging, thought provoking, and focused on the theme -- Mentor, Evaluator. Speech champion Boom San Agustin, VP Ed Ebreo, and AIM student Samid Ghosh all took the impromptu speech challenge.
New toastie Alice Bagadiong delivered her icebreaker speech. She wowed us with her poise and confidence as she talked about her father as the most influential person in her life. Demi, er, Dianne Tang regaled us with stories of her bad hair childhood. The last prepared speaker of the evening, Alvin Abrantes, had us reflecting on life by using the metaphor of a pencil. He said that like pencils, 1) we make our mark, 2) we can erase mistakes, 3) it's what's is inside that matters, 4) we need to be sharpened, and 5) we depend on Him who holds and moves us.
It was again a night for great speeches.
General Evaluator and Diamond Toastmaster JJ Letargo took over the stage and led the evaluators. BnT mentor and member Jazz Encarnacion shared her insightful evaluation of the table topic speakers. Toasties Boom San Agustin and Pat Pascua, as well as guest Carmel Valencia, evaluated the prepared speakers in their usual contest-winning fashion. Props go to our tecnical evaluators, Jun Roy, Joanne Capareda, and Mark Sta. Maria.
We missed our usual pansit dinner, but the sumptuous feast arranged by our hosts more than made up for it.
By the end of the meeting, we had sufficiently convinced two people of the worth of becoming a Toastmaster. Welcome to our new members, Russel Roxas and Cian Palami. To see the rest of the photos, click here.
Friday, March 20, 2009
Toastmasters Speech No. 2 " Ant Philosophy"
By Alvin Abrantes
“Have you ever observed how ants work? I have.”
I think everybody should study ants.
Ants are tiny, hardworking creatures, that we see crawling in line, sometimes even carrying tiny pieces of food particles that are bigger than they are!
We can definitely see them everywhere, and once bitten, there’s this urge to scratch that part of our body to soothe the pain.
But…
Do you know that we can learn so many things from these tiny creatures?
Let me share with you “The Ant Philosophy”, which came from world- famous speaker Jim Rohn.
The Ant philosophy is a very simple yet powerful concept.
They have an amazing four-part philosophy, and here it is:
First, ants never quit. If they're headed somewhere and you try to stop them; they'll look for another way. They'll climb over, under, around! They keep looking for another way. What a neat philosophy, to never quit looking for a way to get where you're supposed to go.
Second, ants think winter all summer. That's an important perspective. You can't be so naive as to think summer will last forever. So ants are gathering their winter food in the middle of summer.
An ancient saying goes, "Don't build your house on the sand" Why do we need that advice? Because it is important to plan and think ahead. During summer, you've got to think storm. You've got to think rocks as you enjoy the sand and sun. Think ahead.
The third part of the ant philosophy is that ants think summer all winter. That is also very important. During winter, ants remind themselves, "This won't last long; we'll soon be out of here." And the first warm day, the ants are out. If it turns cold again, they'll dive back down, but then they come out the first warm day. They can't wait to get out.
And here's the last part of the ant philosophy. How much will an ant gather during summer to prepare for winter? All that he possibly can. What an incredible philosophy, the "all-that-you-possibly-can" philosophy.
I have embraced the ant philosophy. Whenever I encounter a cold day in my life, I always consider it as a challenge. I always handle it positively. When I was diagnosed with GBS, my character was tested. But just like the ant, I did not give up, I was very positive that I can overcome my condition, I defied my doctors that leads me to where I am right now.
In a nutshell, like the ants…
• We should never quit looking for a way to reach where we’re supposed to, or want to go.
• It is important to plan and think ahead
• Stay positive at all times
• Do all you can & more
Friends, let’s learn from the wisdom of the ants.
“Have you ever observed how ants work? I have.”
I think everybody should study ants.
Ants are tiny, hardworking creatures, that we see crawling in line, sometimes even carrying tiny pieces of food particles that are bigger than they are!
We can definitely see them everywhere, and once bitten, there’s this urge to scratch that part of our body to soothe the pain.
But…
Do you know that we can learn so many things from these tiny creatures?
Let me share with you “The Ant Philosophy”, which came from world- famous speaker Jim Rohn.
The Ant philosophy is a very simple yet powerful concept.
They have an amazing four-part philosophy, and here it is:
First, ants never quit. If they're headed somewhere and you try to stop them; they'll look for another way. They'll climb over, under, around! They keep looking for another way. What a neat philosophy, to never quit looking for a way to get where you're supposed to go.
Second, ants think winter all summer. That's an important perspective. You can't be so naive as to think summer will last forever. So ants are gathering their winter food in the middle of summer.
An ancient saying goes, "Don't build your house on the sand" Why do we need that advice? Because it is important to plan and think ahead. During summer, you've got to think storm. You've got to think rocks as you enjoy the sand and sun. Think ahead.
The third part of the ant philosophy is that ants think summer all winter. That is also very important. During winter, ants remind themselves, "This won't last long; we'll soon be out of here." And the first warm day, the ants are out. If it turns cold again, they'll dive back down, but then they come out the first warm day. They can't wait to get out.
And here's the last part of the ant philosophy. How much will an ant gather during summer to prepare for winter? All that he possibly can. What an incredible philosophy, the "all-that-you-possibly-can" philosophy.
I have embraced the ant philosophy. Whenever I encounter a cold day in my life, I always consider it as a challenge. I always handle it positively. When I was diagnosed with GBS, my character was tested. But just like the ant, I did not give up, I was very positive that I can overcome my condition, I defied my doctors that leads me to where I am right now.
In a nutshell, like the ants…
• We should never quit looking for a way to reach where we’re supposed to, or want to go.
• It is important to plan and think ahead
• Stay positive at all times
• Do all you can & more
Friends, let’s learn from the wisdom of the ants.
Wednesday, March 18, 2009
Toastmasters Ice Breaker Speech: "I Can"
By Alvin Abrantes
Henry Ford, once said, “Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re right!”
Good evening, everyone! I’m Alvin Abrantes, and, I’m here to share with you the incident that changed my life.
The year was 2005; I was at the peak of my career as the youngest regional manager for a financial company, and at the same time, a candidate for a position of Assistant Vice-President. Personally and professionally, everything was so smooth for me. I have a pretty, loving, & supportive wife and two wonderful kids, plus a very stable and financially rewarding career.
Until the unimaginable happened. I experienced the unexpected.
At first, I thought it was just a simple case of stress due to over-work, I felt so weak for several days until, I got paralyzed from neck down. Because of my condition, I wasn't able to walk alone, stand alone, and eat alone. I can’t even hold a pen to write some notes. In short, I was a good for nothing individual.
I was confined at a very good hospital. The medical specialists who attended to my condition are the best in the industry. However, even if they are the best, it took them several days and several medical examinations to confirm what happened to me.
I was diagnosed of a rare disease called Guillain Barre Syndrome. Guillain-Barré syndrome is a non-communicable disorder in which the body's immune system attacks part of the peripheral nervous system.
In simple terms, my own system tried to kill “itself” slowly.
The syndrome is rare and with no known cure, but therapies can lessen the severity of the illness and accelerate the recovery in most patients.
My doctors told me that, we have to take this as patiently as possible, and recovery usually takes weeks, even months or sometimes years.
After hearing the doctor’s prognosis. I tried to accept my condition as calmly as possible, but deep inside I felt it was the end for me.
It was during these very trying times that I felt the love of my family, relatives, & friends. They were there to cheer me up, they motivated me and told me that it was not the end of the world for me; some even went out of their way just to check my condition.
With my health condition, I resigned from my job to focus on my therapy and recovery.
My wife, who worked as human resources specialists at that time, took a leave of absence from her work to take good care of me.
The High cost of medicines and hospital bills ate my savings. Just to save money, my wife and I cancelled the 3rd birthday celebration of our son, and some other activities.
My therapy went well, but I felt that it was not enough; I know doctors can only do so much and I have to help myself, after realising the immeasurable love I have for my wife and kids. I decided to disobey my doctor’s orders.
With lots prayers and so much faith, I did the unexpected.
With the help of my wife, I tried to walk little by little until I can jog and run, then, I tried lifting lightweights until I can lift heavier weights.
Little by little, I recovered; little by little, I started to gain weight, but now, as you can see I am over-weight.
Like an eagle soaring in the sky, I have overcome this test in my life.
Now I believe. Now I know. I can!
With the blessings of our LORD, I can overcome pain, failure, rejection, humiliation and any uncertainties ahead of me.
The decisions and actions I took before when I was down, and, those that I will take today will definitely affect my future. I am fully aware that the future is an unraveling mystery, constantly revealed by how we live our lives in the present. It is my prayer that my decisions and actions will be a living testimony to strength & beauty of my character.
I can!
How about you?
Henry Ford, once said, “Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re right!”
Good evening, everyone! I’m Alvin Abrantes, and, I’m here to share with you the incident that changed my life.
The year was 2005; I was at the peak of my career as the youngest regional manager for a financial company, and at the same time, a candidate for a position of Assistant Vice-President. Personally and professionally, everything was so smooth for me. I have a pretty, loving, & supportive wife and two wonderful kids, plus a very stable and financially rewarding career.
Until the unimaginable happened. I experienced the unexpected.
At first, I thought it was just a simple case of stress due to over-work, I felt so weak for several days until, I got paralyzed from neck down. Because of my condition, I wasn't able to walk alone, stand alone, and eat alone. I can’t even hold a pen to write some notes. In short, I was a good for nothing individual.
I was confined at a very good hospital. The medical specialists who attended to my condition are the best in the industry. However, even if they are the best, it took them several days and several medical examinations to confirm what happened to me.
I was diagnosed of a rare disease called Guillain Barre Syndrome. Guillain-Barré syndrome is a non-communicable disorder in which the body's immune system attacks part of the peripheral nervous system.
In simple terms, my own system tried to kill “itself” slowly.
The syndrome is rare and with no known cure, but therapies can lessen the severity of the illness and accelerate the recovery in most patients.
My doctors told me that, we have to take this as patiently as possible, and recovery usually takes weeks, even months or sometimes years.
After hearing the doctor’s prognosis. I tried to accept my condition as calmly as possible, but deep inside I felt it was the end for me.
It was during these very trying times that I felt the love of my family, relatives, & friends. They were there to cheer me up, they motivated me and told me that it was not the end of the world for me; some even went out of their way just to check my condition.
With my health condition, I resigned from my job to focus on my therapy and recovery.
My wife, who worked as human resources specialists at that time, took a leave of absence from her work to take good care of me.
The High cost of medicines and hospital bills ate my savings. Just to save money, my wife and I cancelled the 3rd birthday celebration of our son, and some other activities.
My therapy went well, but I felt that it was not enough; I know doctors can only do so much and I have to help myself, after realising the immeasurable love I have for my wife and kids. I decided to disobey my doctor’s orders.
With lots prayers and so much faith, I did the unexpected.
With the help of my wife, I tried to walk little by little until I can jog and run, then, I tried lifting lightweights until I can lift heavier weights.
Little by little, I recovered; little by little, I started to gain weight, but now, as you can see I am over-weight.
Like an eagle soaring in the sky, I have overcome this test in my life.
Now I believe. Now I know. I can!
With the blessings of our LORD, I can overcome pain, failure, rejection, humiliation and any uncertainties ahead of me.
The decisions and actions I took before when I was down, and, those that I will take today will definitely affect my future. I am fully aware that the future is an unraveling mystery, constantly revealed by how we live our lives in the present. It is my prayer that my decisions and actions will be a living testimony to strength & beauty of my character.
I can!
How about you?
Monday, March 16, 2009
Toastmaster Mentors , Our Mission is to Encourage
When you join Butter N Toast Toastmasters Club, you are expected to live by our mission as Toastmasters, and that is to encourage members to continuously improve their communication and leadership skills.
When new members join the club, they are both excited and afraid; some more afraid than others. Without the technical and moral support of a mentor, they may be overwhelmed by fear and fail to deliver. This is not what we want. What we want is for new members to gather enough strength and skills to deliver their speeches the soonest, and recoup their investment.
In order for this to happen, Butter N Toast Mentors must become effective "encouragers". What does it take to be one?
1.Believe in the abilities of their protégés - It's difficult to encourage someone when you don't believe in her ability to succeed. A good mentor believes that with the right amount of coaching and encouraging, success is achievable. A mentor looks at the protégé and sees a diamond in the rough. A mentor works to have the protégé see that with some polishing, her diamond will shine.
2.Be enthusiastic about the protégé’s prospect of success. True blue mentors, don't see mentoring as a chore but as an exciting adventure towards helping another person discover his full potential. He is excited by it. That's why he is concerned when a protégé misses opportunities to deliver a speech or play a role in club meetings. When the protégé becomes remiss in his Toastmasters duties, the mentor seeks him out and encourages him to get back on track.
3. Be Interested in producing new mentors. John Maxwell in his 5 Levels of leadership model talked about Level 4 leaders - leaders who produce new leaders. I believe the same is true with good mentors. They produce new mentors by showing new members the way and modelling the right mentoring behaviors. Like a Jedi master to a pad wan who eventually becomes a Jedi Master himself.
As BNT grows and new members come in, we need more mentors who are capable not only to teach but most of all, to encourage new members to get started and work their way towards becoming successful. We encourage everyone to take this role and take it to new heights. We can do it because we have what it takes to be mentors and encouragers.
When new members join the club, they are both excited and afraid; some more afraid than others. Without the technical and moral support of a mentor, they may be overwhelmed by fear and fail to deliver. This is not what we want. What we want is for new members to gather enough strength and skills to deliver their speeches the soonest, and recoup their investment.
In order for this to happen, Butter N Toast Mentors must become effective "encouragers". What does it take to be one?
1.Believe in the abilities of their protégés - It's difficult to encourage someone when you don't believe in her ability to succeed. A good mentor believes that with the right amount of coaching and encouraging, success is achievable. A mentor looks at the protégé and sees a diamond in the rough. A mentor works to have the protégé see that with some polishing, her diamond will shine.
2.Be enthusiastic about the protégé’s prospect of success. True blue mentors, don't see mentoring as a chore but as an exciting adventure towards helping another person discover his full potential. He is excited by it. That's why he is concerned when a protégé misses opportunities to deliver a speech or play a role in club meetings. When the protégé becomes remiss in his Toastmasters duties, the mentor seeks him out and encourages him to get back on track.
3. Be Interested in producing new mentors. John Maxwell in his 5 Levels of leadership model talked about Level 4 leaders - leaders who produce new leaders. I believe the same is true with good mentors. They produce new mentors by showing new members the way and modelling the right mentoring behaviors. Like a Jedi master to a pad wan who eventually becomes a Jedi Master himself.
As BNT grows and new members come in, we need more mentors who are capable not only to teach but most of all, to encourage new members to get started and work their way towards becoming successful. We encourage everyone to take this role and take it to new heights. We can do it because we have what it takes to be mentors and encouragers.
Sunday, March 15, 2009
Toastmaster Mentors Just Do It
by Gege C. Sugue
I don’t think anyone will argue about the merits of mentorship. We believe in its value. We believe in its role in success. Here at Butter N Toast Toastmasters Club, we count on our mentorship program to help individuals and our club achieve goals. But believing, valuing, and planning are not going to accomplish much for us is if we don’t actually do it.
Because everything we do in our club is done voluntarily, we don’t really gain much from the title of Mentor. No fame, no fortune, not even a resume mention. The reward then is in actually doing it. The compensation is in the action. Here are 5 concrete things that can help you be a mentor of action:
1.Develop a relationship with your protégé. – If you’re going to reach out to your mentor only when he or she is up for a speech, chances are you’re going to forget your role as a mentor. Be proactive. As soon as you’re assigned, take your protégé’s contact details and meet him or her for coffee to start the bonding process. Be a coach and a friend to your protégé who just might be feeling overwhelmed by being a newbie in a club.
2.Find out your protégé’s needs. - First, ask your protégé to fill out the Member Profile role. Your protégé’s responses will help you what you need to prioritize in her development as a communicator and as a leader. Knowing how she can use Toastmasters in her career, activities, and personal life will help you know how best to mentor her.
3.Track your protégé’s progress. – And be the active, constant push to get her moving to the next achievement.
4.Lead by example. – Deliver speeches. Play meeting roles. Come on time. Take on challenges and leadership role when called upon to do so. Be a good picture of an exemplary member.
5.Don’t wait. Start now. – Author and speaker Peter Nivio Zarlenga says it well, “To begin, begin.”
I don’t think anyone will argue about the merits of mentorship. We believe in its value. We believe in its role in success. Here at Butter N Toast Toastmasters Club, we count on our mentorship program to help individuals and our club achieve goals. But believing, valuing, and planning are not going to accomplish much for us is if we don’t actually do it.
Because everything we do in our club is done voluntarily, we don’t really gain much from the title of Mentor. No fame, no fortune, not even a resume mention. The reward then is in actually doing it. The compensation is in the action. Here are 5 concrete things that can help you be a mentor of action:
1.Develop a relationship with your protégé. – If you’re going to reach out to your mentor only when he or she is up for a speech, chances are you’re going to forget your role as a mentor. Be proactive. As soon as you’re assigned, take your protégé’s contact details and meet him or her for coffee to start the bonding process. Be a coach and a friend to your protégé who just might be feeling overwhelmed by being a newbie in a club.
2.Find out your protégé’s needs. - First, ask your protégé to fill out the Member Profile role. Your protégé’s responses will help you what you need to prioritize in her development as a communicator and as a leader. Knowing how she can use Toastmasters in her career, activities, and personal life will help you know how best to mentor her.
3.Track your protégé’s progress. – And be the active, constant push to get her moving to the next achievement.
4.Lead by example. – Deliver speeches. Play meeting roles. Come on time. Take on challenges and leadership role when called upon to do so. Be a good picture of an exemplary member.
5.Don’t wait. Start now. – Author and speaker Peter Nivio Zarlenga says it well, “To begin, begin.”
Saturday, March 14, 2009
Triple Win for Boom San Agustin
BNT's pride, Boom San Agustin, added three more pieces to his hardware collection last February 21 at the Area 16 Speech Contest in Makati.
It didn't start out too well, as his fellow contestants couldn't make it to the event due to various circumstances, leaving him with literally no competition. We assure you that Boom had nothing to do with that.
First in the agenda was the highly competitive Table Topics Contest, with a mind-blowing grand total of one contestant. Despite that fact, he didn't take the contest lightly as he tackled the topic with the seriousness of a true competitor. The judges had a tough time tallying their votes.
After the first contest was officially closed, out of nowhere, Boom came up with the idea of competing in the Humorous Speech Contest. Was it because he thought that by simply showing up and completing the minimum time requirement, it was his for the taking? He would have had another round of self-competition if it wasn't for Raju Mandhyan from Executive Toastmasters Club, who also decided to participate at the very last minute. After consulting the Chief Judge and everyone else in the room, both contestants were deemed eligible to compete, and the match was on. Both warriors had to put together a humorous speech in less than 20 minutes. Amazingly, they both did!
In the International Speech Contest, Raju decided to challenge him once again. For this contest, Boom has been playing and replaying his speech in his mind for months, perhaps years, and it was evident. The delivery was silky smooth. The content was rich. The emotional impact was undeniable.
Three hours, three contests, three medals. Three cheers for Boom!
The Toastmaster Mentor as A Teacher - A Job Description
by Gege C. Sugue
Yes, it’s a job. It does not pay much, er, at BnT TMC it pays zero, but the rewards are priceless. Mentorship is more than just doing the rah-rah cry and the good-job shoulder pat. It is also about imparting information. It is about equipping your protégé with the tools necessary for Toastmasters success. Someone once said, "A teacher is one who makes himself progressively unnecessary." Become unnecessary by educating, encouraging, and empowering your protégé to soar. Here’s the Job Description:
Position: Mentor, Teacher
Reports to: Vice President for Education
Position description:
The Mentor is responsible for providing a motivational atmosphere for the protégé to have the opportunity to fulfill his or her potential for growth in the Toastmasters organization. This person is responsible for organizing and implementing a program that will result in the protégé completing the basic communication and leadership manuals.
Primary Responsibilities:
•Communicating and working together with the protégé to ensure that protégé is actively engaged in meaningful learning experiences in the Club.
•Listening to the protégé to identify and meet his or her self development needs.
•Modeling ideal Toastmaster behaviour – delivering speeches, volunteering and performing meeting roles, participating in activities that enhance leadership skills
•Ensuring that protégé is constantly growing and learning by monitoring and acknowledging achievement.
•Guiding protégé in finding information about Toastmasters, BnT TMC, the TM path to DTM, Meeting Roles, and DCP Goals.
•Giving honest and constructive feedback to encourage the protégé to learn and grow.
Yes, it’s a job. It does not pay much, er, at BnT TMC it pays zero, but the rewards are priceless. Mentorship is more than just doing the rah-rah cry and the good-job shoulder pat. It is also about imparting information. It is about equipping your protégé with the tools necessary for Toastmasters success. Someone once said, "A teacher is one who makes himself progressively unnecessary." Become unnecessary by educating, encouraging, and empowering your protégé to soar. Here’s the Job Description:
Position: Mentor, Teacher
Reports to: Vice President for Education
Position description:
The Mentor is responsible for providing a motivational atmosphere for the protégé to have the opportunity to fulfill his or her potential for growth in the Toastmasters organization. This person is responsible for organizing and implementing a program that will result in the protégé completing the basic communication and leadership manuals.
Primary Responsibilities:
•Communicating and working together with the protégé to ensure that protégé is actively engaged in meaningful learning experiences in the Club.
•Listening to the protégé to identify and meet his or her self development needs.
•Modeling ideal Toastmaster behaviour – delivering speeches, volunteering and performing meeting roles, participating in activities that enhance leadership skills
•Ensuring that protégé is constantly growing and learning by monitoring and acknowledging achievement.
•Guiding protégé in finding information about Toastmasters, BnT TMC, the TM path to DTM, Meeting Roles, and DCP Goals.
•Giving honest and constructive feedback to encourage the protégé to learn and grow.
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