Friday, August 24, 2007

August 23 - Minutes of the Meeting

The meeting was called to order at 7PM. TM of the Evening was BNT newbie, TM Boom San Agustin. Boom is another new member who joined BNT last June, after attending just one meeting! Boom also happens to be a member of the Pilipino TMC in Bahrain. Last August 15, Boom has officially registered to represent BNT at the Quartethlon! So for the night’s meeting, Boom took on multiple roles as TM of the PM, Table Topics participant, plus, he delivered his speech #2 from the basic manual, and also took on the role of individual evaluator! Whew! Goes to show that at BNT, training for Quartethlon is something we take seriously. ;-> Way to go, Boom!

The Table Topics session was ably led by another newbie, Ellen Garcia. Since the theme for the meeting was on mentorship, Ellen’s take was to focus her questions on Leadership. And since Ellen mentioned that leadership is like a game, she used playing cards as props, and her hosting was ala Kris Aquino’s “Deal or no Deal”. And of course, as expected, the willing participants to the table topics session were all for “Deal!” The question Ellen asked was the same for all participants, “What do you think are this person’s leadership qualities? And how does he/she inspire you?”

Table Topics participants were first-time guest Sohail Hasnie, CC (from Executive TMC), TM Boom San Agustin, and TM Jun Roy. Each participant randomly picked playing cards in which names of different leaders were written down. Sohail picked Superman, Boom got Mike Velarde, and Jun got Cory Aquino. All speakers showed confidence speaking in front, and this was pointed out during the evaluation portion by Table Topics evaluator, ATM-B Edwin Ebreo.

For the prepared speeches, it was another full-packed evening with 5 speakers, namely Joel Guevarra, Tisha Timbang, Mars Sy, and Boom San Agustin. Alvin Tan also delivered an advanced speech from the Leadership Series entitled “How to invite new members”.
Individual evaluators were Gege Sugue (CC), TM Boom San Agustin, and ATM-B Ed Ebreo, respectively. Everyone was tasked to evaluate Boom’s “7 Candles” speech to help him in his preparation for the Quartethlon.

Joel’s icebreaker speech was entitled, “Mother knows Best” and he related how his mother’s influence has helped him in different aspects of his life. It was an inspiring and touching story, and he received a standing ovation from the group after his delivery.

Tisha’s speech #5 was entitled “Connect to Engage”, and related how people like Oprah Winfrey and Bono (U2’s singer) use their popularity to reach out and make a difference in people’s lives.

Mar’s speech #8 was entitled “Swoosh! Swoosh! Goes Chef ala Mar”. Mar treated us to a culinary experience, not just with his speech but with a taste of his special leche flan as well! It was a great speech greeted with hearty applause. And the evaluator, Ed Ebreo, started his evaluation with the statement, “I love your leche flan”. :)

Boom’s speech for the Quartethlon was entitled “7 Candles”, and related how in the worst of times, Boom’s family pulled through for him. The 7 candles represent the 7 family members who came together, and who like candles, lit the way and gave hope to Boom. It was a heart wrenching, heart breaking and inspiring story, which had the makings of a real speech winner.

Alvin’s advanced speech was on how to invite new members. There was a lot of interaction between the group, and Alvin focused on how generally, people want to improve, thus making them “willing victims” to joining Toastmasters. ;->

The evaluation portion was ably handled by our GE, ATM-B Ed Fabonan. This was Ed’s first time as GE at BNT, and his comical evaluations were right on target. He also brought his Indian friend’s special brand of wisdom, sharing with us such nuggets as “Always be brief no matter how long it takes”. ;-> Ed commented on the quick-witted members of BNT, the easy banter, and the informal and fun culture of the club.

The team of evaluators who joined Ed were the following:
Language Evaluator – Sheila dela Cruz, CC, CL
Timekeeper – TM Judith Jarabelo
Ah Counter – TM Ferdie Bondoy

As for EXPRESS EXPRESS, the points garnered for this meeting are as follows:

Team 1
Attendance: 4 members x 5 pts. = 20 points
2 speakers (Tisha & Mars) = 20 points
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40 points
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Team 2
Attendance: 4 members x 5 pts. = 20 points
1 speaker (Boom) = 10 points
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30 points
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Team 3
Attendance: 3 members x 5 pts. = 15 points
2 speakers (Joel and Alvin) = 20 points
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35 points
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Current Team standings:
Team 1 – 65 points
Team 2 – 120 points
Team 3 – 65 points

It was another eXhilarating, eXciting, eXploration of eXcellence at BNT! Guests are invited to eXperience an eXtraordinary eXplosion of Learning and Fun possibilities at BUTTERNTOAST! And the GEM for the night was the statement, “BUTTERNTOAST is the club where fun and learning collide”! :D

See you all neXt meeting, 13 September 2007!

Tuesday, August 14, 2007

Running Scared

by Tisha Timbang

2nd Speech (Organize Your Speech)
for Butter N Toast (Toastmasters International)
Delivered on 05 October 2006

It happened over 25 years ago. But the irony of it, amazes me to this day.

A lady named Aida shared me a story about a little girl who had been disabled in an accident. Her stomach churned as she thought of that ever happening to one of her four children. The more she imagined such a tragedy, the more fearful she became. Her effectiveness as a mother and teacher in a public school was put on hold once she started running scared.

Finally she gave in to her obsession. Making sure that her children are safe and protected, she began to build a house that is accident-free. Her husband built and fenced a play yard for her four children. He built it in such a way that it was impossible for children to get run by cars. She stood back and surveyed every possibility of danger to her children. The contractor returned and set the forms for that additional area. But before the cement could be poured, a heavy downpour of rain stopped the project.

If it had not rained that week, the renovation would have been completed and been fixed by that day. That was August 20, 1981…the day her eight-year-old daughter, Tisha, briskly walked with her thick wooden slippers and fell off the ground. To her shock, she had a bad fall and was immediately brought to the hospital for head surgery. The child wasn’t killed instantly. But she had to stay for about a month in the hospital to observe if there were major complications on her brain and nervous system.

Aida is my mom and I am that little girl. And here’s the mark. While I was innocent of that accident, my Mom learned that no matter how well she prepares, protects and keeps me from accidents, there are no absolute guarantees. There are no fail-safe plans and no completely risk-free arrangements.

If you want to know the shortest way to ineffectiveness, start running scared. Think about every possible danger, concern yourself with “what ifs” instead of “why nots?” Always, take no chances. Say no to courage and yes to caution. Expect the worst. Sophocles said “To him who is in fear, everything rustles.” Triple lock all doors. Keep yourself safe and do nothing.

While I was in Seoul, Korea, I remember asking a local. “My friend, the winter freezes me to death. How do I deal with this cold temperature? She rashly answered, Oh, just don’t go out of the house.”

On a Sunday service in church, I approached a crying lady. In my desire to reach out to her, I asked her how she was doing. For 10 minutes, I listened to her and counseled her. In that short incident, she had bouts of crying and laughing. Suddenly, she told me. “You know what I don’t like you.” I probed and asked her why. But she would not give a clear answer. Abruptly, she asked for a hug. Though I found it too strange, I hugged her. But I freaked out after a few minutes because she strangled me and shouted I hate you, Tisha! I hate you! I discovered later on, the lady is mentally ill. To reach out for another is to risk assault.

How thrilling is it to step out into the Red Sea like Moses and watch God part the waters? Guard your heart from overprotection! Life is not neat and clean. No one is exempted, not even the neurotics who go into extreme measures, are protected from their obsessive fears.

Running scared usually blows up in one’s face. When you fly, you risk crashing. When you drive, you risk colliding. When you run, you risk falling. When you walk, you risk stumbling. When you live, you risk something. Everyday, we are reminded that living and risking go hand in hand. Greatness awaits those who refuse to run scared. Have no fear.

Seoul Searching

By Tisha Timbang

1st Speech (Ice Breaker)
For Butter N Toast (Toastmasters International)
Delivered on 27 July 2006




A home is where the heart is. But at thirty something and single, sometimes one’s soul becomes restless at home—probably in search for a lifetime partner, the greener pasture, a better life, and simply, a change.

When I turned 32 last year, I wished for a change of address. From Merville Subdivision in ParaƱaque—living in with my immediate family, I wanted to move abroad and live alone, independently. In my diary where I keep my wish list for the year, I wrote “go to Seoul and search my self, my soul.”

And fortunately I did. My wish was granted in November. I was invited by a mission organization and for three months, I would have to teach and train Korean teachers ages ranging from 18 to 60 years old, live with two single Korean ladies in a small house and help in our Christian church as a campus minister.

The autumn season gave me a perfect mood for soul searching. I could still imagine the falling yellow leaves on the park, the cold breeze, and birds that flit from one branch to another. I said, “How lovely, how romantic Seoul is.”

As I do my rounds in Seoul, I could feel the unstoppable energy of the city around me, the condo towers of Apjuyeong, the bustling markets in Dongdaemun, the pandemonium of night life in Sinchon, and the impressive cultural shows in Hong ik University made me want for a modernized place and a fast paced lifestyle. I said to myself, I wanted it here. I wanted to stay in Korea for good.

But realities of life are harsh. Living with foreigners wasn’t easy. In the house, there were days when I would just look at the ceiling and talk to myself. My Korean roommates, Mi-ae and Jin, although well-meaning and friendly, would choose to talk to each other than me. And I understand. I myself would choose to have a deep talk with my Pinoy friends. Talking English is tiring.

Ordering food in Korean language is such an ordeal. Sometimes, when I couldn’t remember the right pronunciation of the food I like, I would just have to order bibimbap and kimchi chigue.

Taking a bath with subzero temperature and squatting on the floor is also a torment. Even if there’s hot water available, the cool air freezes me to death after every pour of water on my body.

On my second month, I have resolved in my mind that I would persevere and adjust with the language and weather. If I really want to stay in Korea for long, I would have to endure these things.

The real test came when I tried my chances to get employed. I applied for a teaching job in a Hagwon or English Institute. Mr. Ahn, the old Korean employer, expressed interest in hiring me. In the past, he has had several Filipino-Korean teachers and they were outstanding. But my citizenship disqualified me for the job. Out of pity for myself, he offered me a wonderful proposal. On paper or visa, he would hire me as a service staff or janitress. But in reality, I would work as one of his English teachers.

Reality bites. Korean and English Institutes only hire native speakers such as Canadian, American, English, Australian, and New Zealander. Even if I am more proficient with English language compared to the native speakers, I am not qualified. I am a Filipino.

Although my spirit was crushed because of that incident, inwardly I have understood several things about myself. First, I want to be back home for good, I love my country, I love being a Filipino and finally, I have resolved not to marry a foreigner.

Ladies and gentlemen, I am happy to report to you that I have found my soul in Seoul.

Saturday, August 11, 2007

Sing, Dance, Communicate

by Elinor Grace Bulauitan



I’m Elinor Grace R. Bulauitan, 24 years old, in a relationship. Don’t ask me what my vital statistics are and it will hurt my feelings. I’m currently working as Quality Assurance Officer at CheQ Systems. My main job is in line with Quality Management Systems and business process improvement. I am also a freshman MBA student of UST graduate school. I graduated last 2004 at Polytechnic University of the Philippines with Bachelor in Journalism.

I had a typical childhood like many of you probably had. I’ve experienced playing piko, ten-twenty, patintero and the likes. I’m also a fan of Batibot, Princess Sarah, and At iba pa. That’s not redundant. At iba pa is another version of Batibot where Kapitan Bilang and Patricia Ann Roque was discovered.

I had very supportive parents. Unlike other children who grew up with a complete family, I was raised by my mother on her own; I can say that my mother did her best in raising me and my sister to become better individuals. When I was a child, I still remember how they kept on telling us that Education is the only inheritance that they can give. And now, the person in front of you would not be here if I didn’t listen to their reminders. I’m thankful for having her as my mom and making me realize the importance of education.

Before finishing my high school studies, I have experienced a rough road in my life. My mother passed away because of breast cancer; that time I thought it was the end of my days. Being the eldest, I was worried about how my sister and I can survive. The only thing that kept me strong is my faith to God. I know that by believing In Him, I can stay on track, and He didn’t fail me.

I also have good memories in my high school and college days. I used to be a member of Ramon Obusan Folkloric Group. Are you familiar with the Itik itik or the tinikling dance? I performed those dances when I was in high school. I also love to sing; some of you heard me sing two weeks ago in our Induction. J

I’m also a frustrated cheer leader, in my high school days; I was deprived of becoming a part of our cheering squad because that time I’m a senior student and we were assigned to be the yeller and the junior students were the dancers.

When I was in college, I became a member of the COC pep squad. It is a College of Communication cheering squad. But it was not my fate to become a cheer dancer. I quit the team because of a bratty cheer leader. She accused me of being unprofessional. Instead of confronting her, I chose to quit. I still wonder what would have happened had I not quit. I would have still performed in the Cultural center of the Philippines. It was half a decade ago and yet I still feel some amount of frustration. This is why Sir Ed, you should consider having a cheering competition in our next company activity; you will be helping me fulfill my wish of performing again.

Life is indeed full of dramatic turns. Before completing college, I experienced another rough road in my life’s highway, and it tested my faith. My father died of a heart attack. Despite the pains of losing those who are very dear to me, I kept my faith solid. I never questioned GOD’s will. I just kept thinking that everything that happened in our life has a purpose.

As early as 16 years old, I’ve experienced being independent. I acted as a parent to my younger sister and also as a role model. Just like what my parents did to me, I always tell my sister the importance of education. In fact, she’s now a second year college student of Unibersidad de Manila taking up BS Math.

I have an obscure career path before I joined CheQ Systems. My first job is in line with telemarketing. After 3 months, I was re-assigned as a Marketing Clerk. Upon joining CheQ Systems, being an office staff was my stepping stone to become part of my CheQ family. After regularization, my career path was slightly enlightened when CheQ Systems offered me the position of Quality Assurance Officer. In this position, I know I can enhance my knowledge and utilize my skills in consulting and training. I started with this position with zero knowledge. By attending various training programs and the support of my office mates and my boyfriend Alvin, I can probably say that I have become knowledgeable with my work. Being a one woman team is very hard for me since this is a company wide initiative, but I know I can make the certification possible soon, but not so soon.

These are my bitter and sweet memories as of today.

I am here today because I continue to aspire. I joined Toastmasters because I know that it is material to my success. If you ask me to sing, I can sing, if you ask me to dance I can do that too. But if you ask me to speak like I’m doing now, I exert enormous effort just to stand here in front. But with your support, I can be better. If I can communicate better, my chances at career success becomes higher. Who knows my promotion to become our company’s Quality Management Representative is just around the corner! By then I will be able to sing, dance and most importantly, communicate more effectively. With my faith in God intact and with your support, that should not be far fetched,

Good Evening!

Friday, August 10, 2007

August 9 - Minutes of the meeting

Despite some snags, the meeting started on time, at exactly 7PM. And it was a night of FIRSTs. First time hosts, participants and the launch of a new program.

TM of the Evening was a BNT newbie, TM Judith Jarabelo. Judith joined BNT only last May, and after joining, delivered her Icebreaker speech the very next meeting! And now, she has taken on the challenge of being TM of the Evening! Way to go, Judith!

The Table Topics session was ably lead by another newbie, Jun Roy. Jun is a Training Manager of Pru Life UK, and his confidence on stage can be credited to his training background. Theme for the meeting was “Make it Happen : Choices” and Jun’s topics were in line with the theme.

Table Topics participants were the following:
Ferdie Bondoy
Judith Jarabelo, TM
Elinor Bulauitan, TM
Ed Ebreo, ACB

The first question Jun offered was “What is the essence of man?”, culled in true Ms. Universe fashion. Hehehe… ;-> Ferdie Bondoy, a soon-to-be RENEWING member of BNT, answered. Ferdie’s reply was without gender bias, and instead he answered that instead of focusing on what makes the genders different, and asking what is the “essence of man”, everyone should strive to be better people, to be more human/e and thus imbibe the “essence of a person”.

Judith took on the question, “Given a choice between Harry Potter and Lord of the Rings, what would you choose and why”. Judith chose Lord of the Rings and shared that her favorite character was Frodo.

Next topic was answered by Elinor. In reply to the question, “If you’re stranded on a deserted island, who would you choose to be with you (aside from your family)?” Elinor gave a controversial answer, and it was an emotional choice for her. Let it be known that Jun will try to talk Elinor to reconsider her answer. ;->

“If you could go back in time to when you were 12 years old, what advice would you give yourself?” was the last topic, which Ed volunteered to answer. Sharing his personal experiences, Ed’s advice to his 12-year old self would be “Hang on. You’ll go through a lot of ups and downs in your life, but you’ll survive these”.

The evaluation portion was ably handled by our GE, ATM-G Jef Menguin, mentor of Tops TMC, and current Area 2 Governor. Table Topics evaluator was BNT mentor, DTM Katrina “JJ” Letargo. JJ’s evaluation for each speaker was complete. She not only told the speakers what they did right, but also gave concrete suggestions and examples on what they could do to make their speeches more effective.

It was another meeting of powerhouse speakers, and the first prepared speaker was Boom San Agustin, who chose his full name (Enrique Salvador Eliazar San Agustin) as the title of his Icebreaker Speech. Boom, although not a new TM, chose to deliver an Icebreaker speech as he wanted BNT members to know him better. And after hearing his speech, we learned of how he takes pride in his name, and a host of other things. Doing double duty, Boom’s evaluator was none other than DTM JJ Letargo.

The second speaker, delivering Basic Speech 2 was another TM newbie, Sushil Shriwastwa. Sushil’s speech was titled, “Death Penalty “ and content wise, his speech was complete as he touched on the controversies surrounding capital punishment and how this violates the sanctity of life. Sushil’s speech was evaluated by BNT President, ACB Ed Ebreo.

We’re looking forward to hearing more speeches from both Boom and Sushil. Future contestants are in our midst. :)

The last prepared speech was the graduation speech of TM Gege Sugue. Gege is currently BNT’s VP for Membership and Area 16 Governor. Gege’s speech, titled “Triple X of Success”, referred to the Express Express program launched for this term to encourage and inspire BNT members to deliver their speeches. It is a point reward system that divides the club into 3 competing teams to unite us in our goal of achieving eXcellence and providing eXponential returns on our Toastmasters investment.

The Triple X of Success stands for:
X – 10 speeches to be delivered in 12 months
X – eXcellence is still the goal. Meet manual objectives and deliver the best you can
X – eXceed eXpectations. President’s Distinguished Club is just the minimum standard.

Express Express Points will be given for the following :
Attend - 5 points per meeting
Bring a guest - 5 points per guest
New Member sign up - 10 points per new member
Deliver a speech - 10 points
Complete a Manual - 30 points
Earn a Norm - 50 points

Gege also gave out bandannas to all the club members to signify their team assignments. Members of Team 1 got purple bandannas, Team 2 members received orange bandannas, while Team 3 received black bandannas.

It being a graduation speech, we tried something new and assigned 3 evaluators to evaluate Gege’s speech. CC/CL Sheila dela Cruz focused on Delivery, TM Ana Marie Herrera (of Diamond TMC) focused on the Organization, while ATM-G Jef Menguin (of Tops TMC) focused on Content. Gege successfully attained the objectives of Speech #10, and this makes her the 1st CC of BNT for the term. Congratulations, Gege!

The team of evaluators who joined Jef were the following:
Language Evaluator – TM Ferdie Bondoy
Timekeeper – TM Mars Sy (who should already be given the norm ATM-G or Advanced TIMER Gold) ;->
Ah Counter – TM Joel Guevarra

Aside from Jef Menguin and Ana Marie Herrera, our guests for that night’s meeting were former members and SOON-to-be RENEWING members (sorry, I can’t stress this enough! :D ), Ferdie Bondoy and Celmer Santos. ;-> Another highlight of the meeting was Jef announcing that he would join BNT as a member come October. Jef, no backing out now! We have it in writing! Hahahah! :D

Also, since this meeting marked the formal launch of EXPRESS EXPRESS, here are the current team standings:

Team 1
Attendance: 5 members x 5 pts. = 25 points
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Team 2
Attendance: 4 members x 5 pts. = 20 points
2 speakers (Gege & Boom) = 20 points
1 achieved a norm (Gege) = 50 points
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90 points
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Team 3
Attendance: 4 members x 5 pts. = 20 points
1 speaker (Sushil) = 10 points
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30 points
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It was another eXhilarating, eXciting, eXploration of eXcellence at BNT! Guests are invited to eXperience an eXtraordinary eXplosion of Learning and Fun possibilities at BUTTERNTOAST!!!

See you all neXt meeting, 23 August 2007!

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